What I'm not understanding is WHY you want to have a disable pin on the CAN transceiver.
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I hope this helps.
Nope. It does not help at all. But thank you for willing to help!
I'm asking the specific question. Sorry that you do not understand why but I still need it for my specific purpose.
About "load" resistance, maybe it is my fault not to be clear or explicit enough. I wrote "internal resistors" that in data sheets are named as "input resistance". Did you noticed them before? Purpose of them (surprise) also is to be a "load" or "terminal" (for stub) but somehow weaker than main ones. Did you know about it? Even to add external additional resistors if needed is a known measure.
I am quite experienced using CAN bus as a device designer too so please do not explain me the basics. Please consider more seriously that I ask a specific question for a reason.
If this is still difficult for you then you can try to realize that you also do not understand why NXP developed TJA1051T/E with this particular feature. Do you want to convince them that it was not necessary? ;)
When transmitting, the transceivers drive the CAN-L / CAN-H lines apart, typically around 5V.
Strange part. Hope you mean 2.5 instead of 5.