After looking into this more, I think I've decided and found the way I think is the best and safe method is a Vigortronix VTX-214-001-105 1W AC-DC Power Supply Single Output 5V transformer from here
https://www.rapidonline.com/vigortronix-vtx-214-001-105-1w-ac-dc-power-supply-single-output-5v-84-2686a bit bigger than I'd like but the safeest method.
Also instead of using and Arduino and NRF24L01 I will now be using the wemos D1 mini to control single lights and sockets on downstairs and using the other method for the upstairs where I can use one Arduino and NRF24L01 to control 5 lights